There used to be a cafeteria run by volunteers, where outside visitors were welcome. The secret to maintaining physical and mental health? The community life at my nursing home. Haruko Ooko, 104Īssistant to the Lutheran Fathers Tokyo, Japan When I couldn’t see any more, I started inventing little word puzzles in my mind. Before I lost my sight, I used to play competition Scrabble. I try to eat sensibly, although I haven’t always, and I’ve drunk too much in my time. The local library visited every fortnight with eight to 10 books – they found it a huge task to find ones I hadn’t already read. I cannot recall staying in bed later than 6am, and I am always dressed before breakfast. I was always ready to accept challenges and always gave the best I could. Women’s Auxiliary Air Force veteran and hotel manager London, England You should also be patient and not stressed. And you have to move so you don’t get lazy like a fool. When you read, you learn new things that awaken your curiosity or instinct. I have four children, nine grandchildren and six, soon to be seven, great-grandchildren, and I still remember everybody’s birthdays. Having family around you is also important. I watch quizshows, read murder-mysteries on my Kindle, and play Scrabble – I win about 50% of the time. Doris Martin, 102Īuxiliary Territorial Service veteran and shorthand typist Essex, England This is self-congratulatory, but I sometimes think it’s not just about meeting the right people, you have to do right by them to bring out the best in them. I married her when I was 26, and when she died I was 95, so we had 70 years together. The greatest achievement of my life was that I married the right woman. John M Musser professor of psychology emeritus, Yale University New York, US If I don’t want to get out of bed, I refuse to, because I can – I’m an old lady. The staff at my home chase after me as I charge down the corridors on my Zimmer frame.
Having an interesting life has helped me to grow old. Stage actor and couture saleswoman London, England I’m not a knitter by trade, but I can knit, and if something’s going to help someone, then it’s worth doing. One of the staff told me: “Remember, plenty of laughter, but no shouting.” And do you know, he was right? Very good advice. I had my hair done the other day and when the hairdresser showed me, I said to her: “I could fall in love with myself all over again!” And, last of all, having a good sense of humour doesn’t hurt. Even if I haven’t spoken to the person I can imagine plenty of reasons, in the space of an hour sometimes, why they must now hate me.” - Becky W.Try to get through each day without hurting anyone. If someone confirms they don’t hate me, OK, but it doesn’t last long before I doubt it again, because I could have done something else to annoy them. “Constantly needing validation and reassurance from people. No matter how many times they try to reassure me though, it never gets through to me.” - Nina G.
It could be simply asking if they hate me, if they’re mad at me or if they love me. “I’m constantly asking for validation in so many forms, which makes me feel even more annoying and like I’m giving people another reason to hate me. Most people think you’re being rude, but it’s because my anxiety convinces me that everyone hates me or will hate me or think something negative about me.” - Natalie V. I get really anxious around groups of people. If they contact me, that probably means they don’t hate me.” - Sascha W. “I keep track of how often we initiate contact with each other, and if I notice I’ve been doing it more often lately, I stop contacting them.
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